In pursuing photography, I have trained my eyes to zone in on details. While I haven’t perfected the mastery of this art (some say it can take a lifetime…) I have dissected enough photos to be aware of details. For me, it’s the intangibles that move me. That punch in the gut that leaves a mistiness to the eyes. It’s the little details that can turn your images from a basic snapshot to a moving story capturing the perfect blend of light-love-powerful emotion-and art. An awesome photo often leaves a trace of ghostly elements that linger in our minds- not out of perfect execution, but that mood. That’s the story I try to tell when I pick up my MarkII.
Unfortunately, I’ve been applying too much critiquing to my fellow unawares- innocent bystanders than have the bad luck to come across my direction, and catch my attention. I oftentimes find myself wondering about people’s stories or why they look the way they do, what has happened to them, and what influences them. What compelled them to bare their unsightly midriff? What bravado was behind the older lady that dared to stick a plastic flower in her hair last minute and wear it all day? What made the poor girl kneel down on the sidewalk and break down into tears? I can’t help but notice- the big the small… the everyday.
It’s when I catch myself noticing the negatives more than positives that I realize I need to change. I myself am not an enormous fan of religion in general. I believe they serve a higher purpose and many people need that guidance and order to find peace in their lives.
I believe in goodness and love.
That is why I’ve began reading some self-help books. And, rather than highlighting the main points only to close the book and its memories forever, I want to re-inforce what I choose to take from this that I’m currently reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and share it with those that don’t have access, or even the impetus to think they need to read such a book. Call it cliff notes.
Let me begin with the bullet points from the first chapter: Inside Out.
Character ethics- the foundations of success: integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, and The Golden Rule.
Often times it takes a paradigm shift (or a shift in perception) to really see things as they are, and not through your own rosy colored “always thinking you’re right” glasses.
Listen to others and keep an open mind so that you are not left alone to your own flawed paradigms and a stubborn ass fool.
Remember that we as people are only made up of our own experiences- so we are “seeing the world not as it is, but as we are- or, as we have been conditioned to see it.”
“In all of life, there are sequential stages of growth and development. A child must learn to turn over, sit up, crawl, walk, and then run….” remember that on a 1-10 scale, and you are a 2 level and want to move to a 5, “you must take the step towards level three.” “A thousand mile journey begins with the first step” do things one step at a time, do not cheat- yourself or others to get ahead by faking the funk.
To relate with people you MUST first learn to LISTEN. “Listening involves patience, openness, and the desire to understand– highly developed qualities of character.” I personally love and notice when people give me their 100%, there forms a connection between our channels, and makes me want to give back 125% It’s with these bridges that true connections form.
The way we see the problem is the problem. Einstein said,”The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” Read that sentence 3-4 times and digest it. We need to be at a higher mental capacity to SOLVE the problems we create.
Lastly, T.S. Elliot’s quote,
We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.
Amazing quote. One for the walls. We need to have that constant thirst for improvement, betterment of ourselves and constant updating of our worldly and moral goals. And when we finally get it, we will arrive at the beginning APPRECIATING EVERY DAMN THING. Being enlightened. Awakened. Alive.
Hope you enjoyed these points. I know this sounds corny and my husband will shoot me for writing this, but I really get emotional when I hear MJ’s Man in the Mirror. Because I want to be that man. And to think that changing myself might make this world better? Isn’t that just awesome in itself?